Maybe it will be fun if you fuck me over again (2721 hits)
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Submitted by Holly (View user info) at 2005-10-06 11:28:51 EDT
It amazes me how a year can pass and still new questions arise on a subject
that is supposed to be long dead. I tell myself I've forgiven you when that
couldn't be further from the truth. I torture myself daily pushing the pain
deeper inside me and pretending things are fine. You have no idea what you've
done to me but it's all my fault because I've allowed you to. I've allowed all
of it to be done to me and I've never fought back. I was broken far too early
in life, I suppose.
You have no idea that sex is completely ruined for me. It is with you at least.
It's just emotionless fucking. It's just your need to get off. The whole time
I'm wondering if it would even matter if there were a completely different woman
lying beneath you. I wonder if you're thinking about other women. I wonder if you
think about her. She did give you your fantasy after all. Something I tried to do
but failed at. I don't know why you even wanted me back after finally getting a taste
of what you craved for so long and even still desire. The thing you try to push on me
constantly but I simply can't submit to. I was willing before but now it fills me
with horrible images and feelings of betrayal. It would be the end of us for good.
I try so hard to be the good wife. I satisfy you every way I can. I give you whatever
you want for the most part. When you want head, don't I always give it to you? Even
though the entire time I am wondering if she did the same and if she was better than
me? Wondering again if you are thinking of her or a woman maybe that you saw at work.
Now that you've got a new job I'm terrified. This is how it all happened before.
You met her and fucked her within 4 days of knowing her on our 1 year anniversary.
Well, now you've got a new job and once again you are working the night shift and
you come home late every night. You are a manager so it's very possible you simply
have a lot to finish up at night before closing but I can't shake the suspicion as
our 2 year anniversary grows nearer.
Just know that if you fuck around on me this time I won't be so kind. I've got a
years worth of bitterness saved up in case you decide it would be fun to destroy
me again and you will regret having ever fucking known me if screw me over again.
The pattern of being fucked over by every person I've ever cared about ends with
you and it ends with blood. I fucking promise.
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Submitted by Istaros (user info) at 2005-10-18 04:32:47 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
so this is it? you're finished? fucking shame
Submitted by Bob_Dole (user info) at 2005-10-09 08:37:42 EDT (#)
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.....and it ends with blood.....
wow- thats a chick on the warpath, and buddy- i hope you change your name and find another country to live in- becuse i'm willing to bet there's a .45 with your name carved into the jacket.
Submitted by Serious_Melvin (user info) at 2005-10-09 00:47:52 EDT (#)
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Holly, I'm sorry about my little "escapade" last year, but believe me, she had a great ass.
I'm leaving a +2 in hopes that you'll forgive me.
Submitted by PokeyPecker (user info) at 2005-10-08 20:01:40 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Yeeeesh, that sucks.
Submitted by tyronnicus (user info) at 2005-10-08 18:11:29 EDT (#)
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Grrrr... angsty! Angsty and hollow. What do you expect? One day you'll just magically become happy again? Your continued misery is inevitable. The bluff you made in this article will inevitably be called. Leave and at least salvage some of your dignity.
Submitted by Istaros (user info) at 2005-10-08 01:28:33 EDT (#)
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consider yourself lucky. i only give a serious answer on this retarded website about once a year.
Submitted by Istaros (user info) at 2005-10-08 01:28:02 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by Nator (user info) at 2005-10-07 09:31:54 (#)
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Sounds like you got a real winner there. Stay with him, fall deeper into depression. Kill yourself. Whatever, just keep feeling sorry for yourself and doing nothing about it."
despite the harshness, that's probably the most helpful advice you're going to get. here, at least. you may not be miserable now, you say you aren't, but unhappiness of any sort is a virus. if this one element isn't taken care of, soon, it will begin to seep into other areas of your life. chances are you won't be able to hinder its spread. it may already be too late, really.
you can't force yourself to have a good life. you can't create satisfaction or happiness. it's something you have to allow. regardless of the specifics of your situation, you'll never be happy with it -with any situation- so long as you find yourself wishing things could have changed, or wishing they would change in the future. wishing that they were different. essentially the only thing that works is acceptance. accepting where you are in life(or as in your case, in your relationship), who you are, bla bla bla basic self-motivational guru-speak.
somebody else said to fake the confidence, eventually it will become real. its strange and awkward, but it's true. faking happiness in the same way, it might work but it's risky as far as i know. try not to focus on how to make yourself happy, or on how to improve your situation. anytime anybody does that, what they're really focusing on is why they're NOT happy RIGHT NOW. think about it; why would your mind be toying with ideas of improvement if you were already satisfied? the only real way to get past emotional problems is to realize that, whatever's happened to you, you lived through it and can -will- move on. sounds great, but for some reason it's always hard to do. i think humans are hard-wired to want a certain level of pain in their lives.
accept the hurt, accept who you are(i.e. accept the things that have happened to you as having formed an integral part of who you are), and EXPECT things to turn around. mentally. even if there's a nagging voice inside you saying that you're just deluding yourself, do it anyway. force yourself to believe you fully expect to be happy or satisfied or whatever. there aren't really any answers, just an endless line of questions which, if you rush through them haphazardly and searchingly, wanting nothing but the stasis of joy in a life fulfilled and stabilized, answering each question that comes up with a predefined answer, you finally answer them all and then what? you get to end of that line and you find a grave. relish presence, not theory.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-07 17:25:17 EDT (#)
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Submitted by JewToast. (user info) at 2005-10-07 17:05:21 (#)
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That's quite allright, you don't have to pay me, I'll take you on pro bono
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hahah. No wonder you are crawling with the ladies. How can they possibly resist?
Submitted by JewToast. (user info) at 2005-10-07 17:05:21 EDT (#)
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That's quite allright, you don't have to pay me, I'll take you on pro bono
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-07 16:38:51 EDT (#)
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Submitted by JewToast. (user info) at 2005-10-07 16:36:55 (#)
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My health is quite fine, my dear, and have the libido of a 21 year old boy. All my bits and pieces are in order. My doctor says he's never seen anything like it.
So what do you say I pick you up in my private jet, Air Jewtoast, and fly you to a remote tropical location to have my way with you?
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In that case...It's going to be 2 mil up front for having to deal with the emotional scars for the rest of my life.
Submitted by JewToast. (user info) at 2005-10-07 16:36:55 EDT (#)
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My health is quite fine, my dear, and have the libido of a 21 year old boy. All my bits and pieces are in order. My doctor says he's never seen anything like it.
So what do you say I pick you up in my private jet, Air Jewtoast, and fly you to a remote tropical location to have my way with you?
Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2005-10-07 16:26:59 EDT (#)
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Submitted by ahumblefool (user info) at 2005-10-06 18:45:26 (#)
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Holly, don't take this the wrong way, but if you are 20 now and coming up on your 2nd anniversary, were you 18 or 19 when you got married?
People who marry so young surprise me. You have not even had the chance to live yet, you are just out of the parent's house, maybe in college, and I have yet to understand this fascination with young people about marriage. Marriage is a life long commitment, how can anyone who has lived only 18 or 19 years possible know what they want for the rest of their lives. I know some couples who marry this young survive, but I have seen many friends and families destroyed by this.
Hell, I am 37 and just starting to realize what makes me happy in life and romance. I did not marry until I was 26 and that felt too young.
Not knocking the younger uber's here, just am curious why the next generation wants to grow up so damn fast.
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Well put, and I agree. And I love finding people on Uber older than me. (35).
18 is WAY too young to make such a commitment, especially these days, in my not-so-humble opinion. I'm just now becoming secure in my own decision to seriously consider marraige. Or not. I'd live without it just fine.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-07 13:12:48 EDT (#)
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Submitted by hcp28 (user info) at 2005-10-07 12:43:16 (#)
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He did her in the ass didn't he. You know a little lube and some intimate candle lighting... and it's still gay.
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hahaha exactly.
Submitted by hcp28 (user info) at 2005-10-07 12:43:16 EDT (#)
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He did her in the ass didn't he. You know a little lube and some intimate candle lighting... and it's still gay.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-07 12:40:12 EDT (#)
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JewToast - So how's your health these days? Just uh..wondering.
Submitted by JewToast. (user info) at 2005-10-07 11:34:36 EDT (#)
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Exactly.
Come hither, my young, supple Goddess, and I shall show you a world of eternal bliss.
And old, wrinkled balls.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-07 11:26:40 EDT (#)
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Submitted by JewToast. (user info) at 2005-10-07 11:08:57 (#)
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Would you like to be the arm candy of a rich, successful Harvard lawyer who owns several islands?
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Islands huh? hmmm. Who needs love when you've got money and islands.
Submitted by JewToast. (user info) at 2005-10-07 11:08:57 EDT (#)
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Would you like to be the arm candy of a rich, successful Harvard lawyer who owns several islands?
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-07 10:52:53 EDT (#)
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Submitted by DudeThatsBOSH - I wish you people would read my comments before you freak the fuck out and think I'm all emo and shit. Seriously, I am happy. I am fine. I am NOT miserable and my life is not over. I have some bitterness against my husband that happened a year ago, yes but he's been great. OMG!!!11!!11 MY LIFE IS OVER BECAUSE I AM 20 AND IT'S ALL HOPELESS AND I GOT SOME -2's AND WAS CALLED A DUMB SLUT BY SOME RANDOM STRANGERS ON THE INTROWEB!
Seriously though. I'm fine and happy. My job kicks ass and I am not giving it up for shit. This city kicks ass. I have a great fucking time with my husband.
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Submitted by Average_Dan - Jesus Christ I just fucking woke up and stumbled into work. Forgive a woman a mistake eh? AND ONCE AGAIN I AM NOT UNHAPPY! In fact I am very happy with my life right now. I was not complaining about how miserable I am or how I want to kill myself. It was just a bit of a rant since it's reaching the one year mark since everything has happened.
I AM NOT MISERABLE! AHHH!!!
Submitted by DudeThatsBOSH (user info) at 2005-10-07 10:47:30 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!! I AM 20 YEARS OLD AND MY LIFE IS OVER
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!
Submitted by Average_Dan (user info) at 2005-10-07 10:20:58 EDT (#)
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"Average_Dan - Actually I work in real estate and have gotten my realtors license. I still have more classes to take over the next several years but I'm not going to drop what I've already done. I'm kind of stuck in the city I'm in while I do that and I don't have any other family or friends here. Well one friend..But she wants to fuck me so I'm kind of afraid she'll rape me in my sleep."
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Holz,
I hate to be the one to break it to you, but "Gotten" is not a word.
Once again, YOU ARE 20!! If you had to do it again, so the fuck what? It seems to me that you are coming up with excuses to make yourself miserable.
The bottom line is, even if you were 40, the only person that can make YOU feel happy YOU. That means that if you are NOT happy...well, guess who's fault that is??
email me: nd804.at.hotmail.com
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-07 09:58:25 EDT (#)
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Nator - I wasn't feeling sorry for myself. Just ranting a bit. If you don't believe me then read my comments. I honestly seriously don't give a fuck.
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Average_Dan - Actually I work in real estate and have gotten my realtors license. I still have more classes to take over the next several years but I'm not going to drop what I've already done. I'm kind of stuck in the city I'm in while I do that and I don't have any other family or friends here. Well one friend..But she wants to fuck me so I'm kind of afraid she'll rape me in my sleep.
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CaptainThorns - I'll IM you tonight.
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ahumblefool - Yeah, I am and waws too young. I know that. It's better being here rather than where I was though, trust me. I had nowhere else to go.
Submitted by Nator (user info) at 2005-10-07 09:31:54 EDT (#)
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Sounds like you got a real winner there. Stay with him, fall deeper into depression. Kill yourself. Whatever, just keep feeling sorry for yourself and doing nothing about it.
Submitted by Average_Dan (user info) at 2005-10-07 09:05:38 EDT (#)
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"Hmmm ear. Sounds good. I think it's too late to enjoy my 20s though. I've already got a career and a husband and a home and bills and all of that. I pushed myself into life too quickly and can't find a way to sneak back out. Maybe I'll just lock myself in a room and play video games for the rest of my life. "
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Too late to enjoy your 20's??
Oh Holz, I did the same thing you did. The thing you have to remember is, it is never too late to enjoy anything.
YOU ARE 20 FOR GOD'S SAKE!!
I seriously doubt any "career" you have going for you right now requires any education level over that of a GED. It's not like you couldn't go back.
My suggestions for you:
Get rid of the loser you are with.
If he has cheated on you before, he will do it again.
Get a life.
Come to VA so I can touch your bajiner with my peener. You will forget all about your ex.
Submitted by Magickmuse (user info) at 2005-10-06 23:21:38 EDT (#)
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You should just become a slut. I mean a real whore and let him bang your ass.
You know he wants it.
Why does he have to pretend (you're) more important than Monday Nite Football. Your not. Deal with it.
Cheat on him. He wants you to do it.
Fuck him, he can't even change a flat tire.
Get back in church. They will tell you what to do.
Cut holes in the heels of his socks...that'll show him who's bosh.
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2005-10-06 23:10:30 EDT (#)
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I'm on AIM: dsvmusic
Submitted by userpete86 (user info) at 2005-10-06 20:03:08 EDT (#)
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I don't think about other women... I think about baseball.
Submitted by ahumblefool (user info) at 2005-10-06 18:45:26 EDT (#)
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Holly, don't take this the wrong way, but if you are 20 now and coming up on your 2nd anniversary, were you 18 or 19 when you got married?
People who marry so young surprise me. You have not even had the chance to live yet, you are just out of the parent's house, maybe in college, and I have yet to understand this fascination with young people about marriage. Marriage is a life long commitment, how can anyone who has lived only 18 or 19 years possible know what they want for the rest of their lives. I know some couples who marry this young survive, but I have seen many friends and families destroyed by this.
Hell, I am 37 and just starting to realize what makes me happy in life and romance. I did not marry until I was 26 and that felt too young.
Not knocking the younger uber's here, just am curious why the next generation wants to grow up so damn fast.
Submitted by DudeThatsBOSH (user info) at 2005-10-06 18:39:23 EDT (#)
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wtf
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 18:03:57 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2005-10-06 17:27:36 (#)
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Kick his ass. Then divorce him. Then kick his ass again.
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Sounds like a plan.
Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2005-10-06 17:27:36 EDT (#)
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Kick his ass. Then divorce him. Then kick his ass again.
Submitted by EatMeCompletely (user info) at 2005-10-06 16:27:30 EDT (#)
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Submitted by ruthless (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:57:10 (#)
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Submitted by Sastira (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:46:34 (#)
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There are several posts saying that you deserve better.
This is not true.
We deserve only what we create for ourselves. If you are miserable in this relationship, then you deserve it because you haven't done what it takes to change your life and situation. You are the only one who is going to make your life better. You have the power and the strength to do it, even if you feel like you don't.
Figure out what you really, truly want, and then do what it takes to get it. If you truly want to see if you can "make things work out" with him, then by all means try it. Just please don't make your decisions based on fear. Decisions based on fear are almost never good decisions.
As for "making it work", this is a load of crap. Society brings us up to believe that we should "make" a relationship work. This is rediculous. It either works or it doesn't. There will always be small things that get on your nerves, but are completely tolerable. When you start trying to change your significant other, it becomes dangerous. If you feel you need to change someone's behaviour in order to be happy with them, this is a warning sign. Get out of the relationship and find someone you can just be happy with.
I do hope things work out for you! Good luck.
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Fuck yeah!
I agree 100%!
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Just to throw my little spin on this, there are good guys out there. I happen to be a single, good looking and decent guy. I am modest, too.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 15:05:06 EDT (#)
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penisvonmunchousen - If she's fuckin' guys she's only known a few days then I wouldn't doubt it. Hope you used a rubber!
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JonnyX - Thanks. I have been having problems writing fiction lately because of all of the stuff floating around in my head. Maybe if I get it all out I can go back to writing about other things.
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jack11058 - I know what you mean, jack. I like to wear my tight clothes and cut deep and meaningful words into my wrists and then I squawk. It just makes me sadder though.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 15:00:55 EDT (#)
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kaos-king - Wow, That's messed up. I know women are just as bad and it makes me just as angry when women do it. Some slut here went on the radio and wanted to screw 100 men the day before her wedding. I hope to God her fiance found out about that BEFORE they got married. And as far as leaving him. He only slept with her once and felt horrible. It doesn't justify anything at all but maybe he's not a compulsive cheater. Who knows? My father once cheated on my mother before I was born and they worked things out and he never did it again. They've been married 23 years now.
Sastira - I'm not miserable in our relationship and I know I don't deserve better. I'm still just a bit bitter that it all happened. I don't hate him and I don't even dislike him but sometimes the memories of what he put me through can seriously hurt. Sometimes I want to keep trying and sometimes I want to quit but reguardless whatever happenes is completely 100% my fault for sticking around. I agree with you about making decisions based on the wrong reasons. I honestly have not decided what my reasons for staying this long are but there must be some pretty damn good ones if I'm still here. I'm pretty lost at the moment. Maybe I'll find myself and what I really want eventually. The biggest complaint I had with him and have always had with him is that he fucked around on me and that has stopped and I really have no other problems with him. I suppose the problems are with myself. My inability to forgive him and forget about it all. I'm probably the fuck up here. Thanks for your reply.
MANICMOTHER - Well I'm smarter now and things are good for the moment so I'm not going to change anything when it's fine. Looking back there is no way I would do it all over again because it was hard and painful as hell to get where I am now but I can honestly say I'm happy where I am right now.
DonkeyOnTheEdge - I wasn't looking for "poor baby"s or anything of that sort. In fact I've said repeatedily it's all my fault. I've also said I do love my husband and really we have had a great year. The main reason for this post is because it's nearing the one year mark and I wanted to get all the bitching out of my system here rather than randomly exploding at him for no reason. And it's true, I wasn't expecting any kind of miracle or fairytale when I got married but I had to escape my previous life because it was far worse than the life I have now.
CookieLass - Even when I wasn't married I was too shy to find and approach the excellent menz. The list sounds like a good idea. I once made a list while trying to decide whether to leave my husband or not. It was a pros/cons type list. The cons side was dreadfully longer than the pro side but somehow I still decided to give him another try. what the? I must be an idiot. He's more on the pro side of the list now though.
CaptainThorns - I should be online tomorrow night so I'll IM you then. Which messenger are you on?
Submitted by penisvonmunchousen (user info) at 2005-10-06 14:58:26 EDT (#)
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Cheating is fun...hey I may have fucked her!?!
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2005-10-06 14:48:21 EDT (#)
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Your stuff is always pretty hard-hitting, so +2 for you.
Submitted by jack11058 (user info) at 2005-10-06 14:41:22 EDT (#)
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cries emu tears.
Submitted by kaos-king (user info) at 2005-10-06 14:11:35 EDT (#)
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I was with my Ex for seven years. She cheated on me regularly. With her Ex, with my best friend, and with her now husband. We tried to work things out mulitiple times, but she just couldn't stop screwing around. You know what finally broke her? I cheated on her. She flipped out, couldn't handle it and left.
Women are just as guilty of the stuff. And I was the asshole that didn't leave her the first time it happened. You can try to work it out, but it's not going to happen. The scars are there, and they are never going to heal between the two of you. Bail out now, and save yourself the misery.
Submitted by ruthless (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:57:10 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Sastira (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:46:34 (#)
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There are several posts saying that you deserve better.
This is not true.
We deserve only what we create for ourselves. If you are miserable in this relationship, then you deserve it because you haven't done what it takes to change your life and situation. You are the only one who is going to make your life better. You have the power and the strength to do it, even if you feel like you don't.
Figure out what you really, truly want, and then do what it takes to get it. If you truly want to see if you can "make things work out" with him, then by all means try it. Just please don't make your decisions based on fear. Decisions based on fear are almost never good decisions.
As for "making it work", this is a load of crap. Society brings us up to believe that we should "make" a relationship work. This is rediculous. It either works or it doesn't. There will always be small things that get on your nerves, but are completely tolerable. When you start trying to change your significant other, it becomes dangerous. If you feel you need to change someone's behaviour in order to be happy with them, this is a warning sign. Get out of the relationship and find someone you can just be happy with.
I do hope things work out for you! Good luck.
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Fuck yeah!
I agree 100%!
Submitted by Sastira (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:46:34 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
There are several posts saying that you deserve better.
This is not true.
We deserve only what we create for ourselves. If you are miserable in this relationship, then you deserve it because you haven't done what it takes to change your life and situation. You are the only one who is going to make your life better. You have the power and the strength to do it, even if you feel like you don't.
Figure out what you really, truly want, and then do what it takes to get it. If you truly want to see if you can "make things work out" with him, then by all means try it. Just please don't make your decisions based on fear. Decisions based on fear are almost never good decisions.
As for "making it work", this is a load of crap. Society brings us up to believe that we should "make" a relationship work. This is rediculous. It either works or it doesn't. There will always be small things that get on your nerves, but are completely tolerable. When you start trying to change your significant other, it becomes dangerous. If you feel you need to change someone's behaviour in order to be happy with them, this is a warning sign. Get out of the relationship and find someone you can just be happy with.
I do hope things work out for you! Good luck.
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:45:29 EDT (#)
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Listen to Donk. He keeps Pentameter happy, and everybody knows she's teh awesomest gurl in teh wurld, so he's gotta be doing SOMETHING right.
I hear that it's not the something in his pants, though.
Submitted by MANICMOTHER (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:43:59 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:16:02 (#)
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ozzy, I was 18 when we got married. Yes I know, believe me. Too young, too stupid.
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YOU said it, I'M just agreeing with it.
Submitted by DonkeyOnTheEdge (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:41:55 EDT (#)
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You married young, I'm guessing the guy is young too. I don't know what you expected to happen but life isn't a fairy tale.
A: You don't know what love is or the consequences of marrige when you are nineteen.
B: You don't have to put up with anyone's guff, regardless of your relationship to them.
C: Get a divorce/separation or whatever and get some life experiance before jumping into your next relationship headlong.
I'm not chiding you but I'm not going to sit here and say I'm sorry to hear that. Fix it.
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:38:35 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:50:45 (#)
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CookieLass - Why the fuck don't I know any single, hot, excellent men?! Where the hell do I meet these people?! WHY AM I SO BAD AT LIFE?!
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You don't suck at life, you're just MARRIED. That tends to cut down on your ability to hunt down hot excellent men. Also, excellent is a subjective term. What I find excellent in a man may not be what you find to be excellent. I like funny, caring boys. Their attitudes and outlooks are what make them attractive (although they ain't too rough on the eyes, neither). Maybe something that I did ages ago will help you out. Sit down and make a list of EVERYTHING your ideal man would be. Not your husband, not an ex boyfriend, just the ideal perfection for you that is male. Looks, thoughts, career, behaiviour, ALL of it. Just make a list. Then, after you've got your list, put it in order... 10 most important things, 10 least important things, etc. Now use this list to measure every man you find yourself interested in. If he falls short of the important parts, then don't bother. If you find someone with a trait you like and then come to find you don't actually like it, amend your list. Measure your husband up on that list... I bet he falls WOEFULLY short on all counts.
It's not something to live your life by, but it can help get your priorities in order. Being alone is NOT the worst thingin the world. Being with someone who doesn't make you happy is.
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:35:48 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:27:30 (#)
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CaptainThorns - Depends. My greatest joys in life are gaming and sushi..and my retarded pets. Have I lost you?
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Wooo! A match made in nirvana! Music, sushi and retarded pets rock my world...I have two of the latter myself, a dog and a cat. (And gaming ain't bad either...) Drop me an IM at dsvmusic if you're on it.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:14:09 EDT (#)
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Berty - Heading to lunch but I sent you an email.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:10:41 EDT (#)
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You know Holly, the answers are always easy. It's just the phrasing of them that's tricky.
email me at yeastmonkey.at.hotmail.com if you want to talk some more, I have to go home.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:08:40 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by cocaine (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:05:55 (#)
Ranking: 1
Holly, there are two kinds of angry people - explosive and implosive. Explosive is the type of individual you see screaming at the cashier for not taking his coupon. Implosive is the cashier who remains quiet day after day and then finally shoots everyone in the store. You're the cashier.
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he's right you know. Angry people are teh suxx0rs.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:08:36 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Berty - I'm horrible at making decisions. That's why I'm in this situation to begin with. Yay me.
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cocaine - I think I'd shoot myself before I'd shoot someone else.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:07:02 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Berty - hahahahah. I love puppies. I should totally give up men for puppies. And cats. I could be one of those crazy cat ladies.
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SkinnyKenny - agreed.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:06:09 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
You sound fine just as you are. Just think a little bit about what you need and make sure you set your sights on someone who's actually got it.
Submitted by cocaine (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:05:55 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Holly, there are two kinds of angry people - explosive and implosive. Explosive is the type of individual you see screaming at the cashier for not taking his coupon. Implosive is the cashier who remains quiet day after day and then finally shoots everyone in the store. You're the cashier.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:04:26 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Berty - I don't want kids but I don't mind responsibility. I just want to enjoy life. That's all. I'm the complete opposite of a social person if you can't tell. I don't even act like myself until I've known someone long enough to trust them. Makes things harder than they should be.
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You sound a lot like me. You'll be wanting a bit of a social leper then. Someone for whom all that alpha male nonsense and dominant/submissive stuff doesn't even enter into their heads. Someone quiet and thoughtful. Someone with no self confidence so they won't bugger off because they thing the grass is greener on the other side of the hill but is loyal and full of love.
Now who do we know who fits that description...
I've got it! Adopt one of Rad's puppies.
Submitted by SkinnyKenny (user info) at 2005-10-06 13:03:58 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Harsh. Sounds like a change would do you good.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:59:47 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Berty - I don't think I could change what I am even if I wanted to. Actually I do want to and I've tried and failed repeatedly.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:58:25 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by indoninja - Before he cheated things were great sexually. Always exciting, always emotional, always welcomed by me. Hell even WHILE he was cheating on me the sex was great. It's like the moment I found out he cheated sex became this horrible dreaded thing. Of course he doesn't do anything to try to get me into the sex anymore so maybe we've both given up on it.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:57:32 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
If you don't have strength or confidence, fake it. It will start to come on its own. Trust me.
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That is an ugly sentiment which is the cause of much misery in the world.
True though, at least about confidence. Not about strength though, every jackass boy who seems shit hot and then turns out to be a plastic toy has followed that formula.
It might work for you though. I guess it's your call, no-one knows you better than you.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:56:18 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Pentameter - I wouldn't know where to start on faking confidence. It's something I've never had.
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Berty - I don't want kids but I don't mind responsibility. I just want to enjoy life. That's all. I'm the complete opposite of a social person if you can't tell. I don't even act like myself until I've known someone long enough to trust them. Makes things harder than they should be.
Submitted by indoninja (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:55:06 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:03:15 (#)
Ranking: 0
It's not that he is not enjoying the sex. He loves it and harrasses it for me on an almost constant basis (which is very annoying). I've grown to think of sex as a chore. It's gotten so boring for me.
And there are not kids involved and there never will be so it's more of a decision of if we still love eachother. He claims he still loves me and have been quite the gentlemen for the most part this year but I wonder if I still love him.
I probably should leave before I stab him in the face area.
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If you aren't sexually compatable maybe that is why he cheated? Not saying it isn't his fault, but you seem to hate sex with him. Even if you didn't before you do now, and it isn't going to get better. It is going to become more and more of a chore for you and you will either start hating him more for it, or stop giving it to him, and he will cheat again.
Submitted by Pentameter (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:51:41 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:16:02 (#)
Ranking: 0
I just don't want to do it without a good reason when he's been perfectly fine for a year now.
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What about YOU? You haven't been perfectly fine.
Your feelings are important. If you don't have strength or confidence, fake it. It will start to come on its own. Trust me.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:51:22 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:41:43 (#)
Ranking: 0
Berty - I'm one of those people who wants to be both settled down and mature but I also want to continue acting like a kid. I've got a solid career and I'm married but I still play video games constantly and things of that nature. That's a big reason I haven't left my husband. He's exactly like me in that way.
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I'm not sure if your saying you don't want kids and responsibility or if you're saying you want peace and a lack of stress. Perhaps both.
In any case, I feel you should be with someone who won't hurt you. If your an intensly social person though that's not going to be possible unless you go for someone you've known since you where a child. Even then.
*looks out of window*
You don't strike me as that type though. I dunno. Look inside yourself and then look for the same in your man. You'll then find someone who'll love you and never let you go, not unless you ask him to anyway.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:50:45 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
TheSpook - He just started there two weeks ago so he gets the shit shifts right now. They work him days too. His schedule is so random.
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CookieLass - Why the fuck don't I know any single, hot, excellent men?! Where the hell do I meet these people?! WHY AM I SO BAD AT LIFE?!
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:48:47 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
SiskelandFatboy - You'd think my husband would feel lucky. I hired a maid so I only yell at him over serious things like fucking other women and groping my tits in public.
Submitted by TheSpook (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:47:32 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Night shift manager?
Sounds like a winner to me.
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:46:50 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Holz... there are a million boys like that. EVERY boy is like that. And you know what? 99% of them wouldn't dream of cheating on you. Or hurting you, or using or abusing you. The good guys far outnumber the bad guys. I know 5 single, hot, excellent men, just in my own little circle of friends, so there HAS to be more out there. Law of averages says so.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:44:55 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
ruthless - I hate drama and tears. I don't even fight with him anymore. Ever. Even when he pisses me off, I say nothing.
As for looking for something to make me happy, you're right. I've been searching for a hobby but haven't had much luck yet. I'm making lots of money though so I'll probably make myself happy by buying lots of cheap meaningless shit.
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CookieLass - You are a wise woman. Very good advice.
Submitted by SiskelandFatboy (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:42:43 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I am going to go home and empty the dishwasher.
In case that doesn't make any sense...... http://www.ubersite.com/m/76571
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:41:43 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Berty - I'm one of those people who wants to be both settled down and mature but I also want to continue acting like a kid. I've got a solid career and I'm married but I still play video games constantly and things of that nature. That's a big reason I haven't left my husband. He's exactly like me in that way.
Submitted by ruthless (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:41:15 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Jesus woman. You are thinking too much. You are unhappy, so do something to make yourself happy, whether it be leaving him or taking a class or acquiring a shoe fetish or whatever. Simple as that.
-OR-
Are you one of those people that actually enjoys the drama and tears?
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:39:09 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
That's what I'm sayin, Jeanneee.
Holz, it's NEVER too late to enjoy yourself in life. Never. Don't let the fact that you're working and responsible hold you back. You can be working and responsible and still live your life. Fuck, man, there's millions of people all over the world who do the same thing every day. If you're unhappy, change it. If you can't change it alone, ask for help. There's no shame in that.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:38:39 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Jeanneee - agreed. Avoid marriage at all costs.
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c1ndy - Much agreed. I shall dump his body in a nearby ditch later tonight. That's what you meant right?
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:37:47 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Berty - I've not been with a good man yet but I know they are out there. I must just have very poor luck with men.
I don't have confidence or strength so I suppose I'm screwed either way.
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I disagree with most of these people. I find the 'hare brained' antics of youth empty and unfulfilling, I'd like to settle down. As far as I can tell life is not about the ups and downs, it's about the long stable parts. your going to be alive for another 60 years, if you bounce around leading the single life you'll just get tired.
That's just my opinion though.
As far as men are concerned, good men are a dime a dozen. You've just got to know what to look for. Before you do that though, you should look at what you need. Not what you want, what you need. That's usually easy, it's usually 'I want to be held at night. I don't want to be alone. I want to love someone who accepts my love and won't hurt me. I want companionship.' That said, its fine if there is more or less, that's just what most people want.
Sorry, I'm spouting truisms and stuff you already know. Suffice is to say that the good men are probably not the ones that you see shouting in front of their mates or overly arrogant.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:36:55 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Unabonger - ........God help all the poor innocent Holly's that suffer your insanely unjustified wrath. I myself have never known another Holly so I can't say if they are generally horrid bitches or not.
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Fartman - Yeah..I just have a screwy definition of love.
Submitted by Jeanneee (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:34:50 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Yet another piece of evidence that marriage is for suckers. No offense.
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:34:38 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Blimey Holly ditch him, he sounds like a loser.
Submitted by Unabonger (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:34:19 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
i can't give you any objective advice because you share the name Holly with my last serious girlfriend so I think you should be doused with gasoline and set on fire and rolled off a cliff.
Fuck you.
but I won't -2 your post cause I don't think you're her.
Submitted by Fartman (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:32:32 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Newsflash. Fartman agrees with Cookie! Film at eleven!
"if you ever wonder if you still love him, then you don't."
She's quite right, you know.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:32:28 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
dodahdave - I don't believe I'm in love. That feeling wears off rather quickly. My definition of love is being comfortable around someone and still liking to be around them when the "in love" feeling goes away. So by that definition, I do still love my husband. At least most of the time.
Submitted by dodahdave (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:29:24 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:15:15 (#)
Ranking: 2
HAHAHAHAHAHA stab him in the face area. Not the actual face.. just the area of his face. Perhaps his ear?
Long experience with cheating men has taught me that if you ever wonder if you still love him, then you don't. Leave him and get counseling for the trust issues that he's caused. Don't get into another relationship till your therapist (I suggest a woman... when you have issues with men, it makes it very difficult to open up to a male shrink) pronounces you sane. You're so young. Too young to waste yourself on a man you don't feel anything fond for. Your 20's are the greatest time of your life. You discover who you are, become a "real" person, have all your hare-brained adventures. Sounds like it's time to go out and do that.
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Sometimes, Cookie, you are remarkably cogent. Well, except for the stabbing thing, I can't condone that.
Interesting to contrast this piece with this one: http://www.ubersite.com/m/71831
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:27:30 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
CaptainThorns - Depends. My greatest joys in life are gaming and sushi..and my retarded pets. Have I lost you?
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Maddog - Probably. If he is though he's got one hell of a sex drive because he will not leave me the fuck alone. If he's going to cheat on me the least he could do is stop abusing my poor vagina.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:25:09 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
HadToBeDone - I wasn't being sarcastic. I really am a push over and I need to stop with that. I think the main reason for it is I've been in love with this guy for probably going on 10 years now and he'll show interest with me and tell me he loves me and then blow me off and get with his ex girlfriend so I get into these rebound relationships to forget about him. This has happened four times now. Also, When I married my current husband he lived across the country and I just wanted to escape everything and everyone I knew and go somewhere new. Ahhhhh life. I screw you, you screw me.
MyNameIsTim - hmm. Thanks for the ideas.
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:22:10 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:35:53 (#)
Ranking: 0
The information is true though the emotions are a bit exaggerated. I do have the thoughts sometimes but I'm in no plotting the death of my husband. Not yet, anyway.
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Is that you, soul mate?
Submitted by Maddog (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:21:38 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
News flash: He is already cheating on you
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:21:02 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
I didn't mean it to sound like that, really. Just that people who have bad "luck" with men seem to always choose the wrong types for the wrong reasons. But what do I know? I'm perpetually single.
Submitted by MyNameIsTim (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:19:41 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
ever see good will hunting? know where will beats up carmichael?
yea, make it kind of like that
http://www.ubersite.com/m/73887
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:19:19 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by HadToBeDone - You're right. I'm too much of a push over and too eager to please. I need to bitch it up a bit and get them bitches in line or some shit. Or at least I need to stop being such a push over.
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Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:15:15 (#)
Ranking: 2
HAHAHAHAHAHA stab him in the face area. Not the actual face.. just the area of his face. Perhaps his ear?
Long experience with cheating men has taught me that if you ever wonder if you still love him, then you don't. Leave him and get counseling for the trust issues that he's caused. Don't get into another relationship till your therapist (I suggest a woman... when you have issues with men, it makes it very difficult to open up to a male shrink) pronounces you sane. You're so young. Too young to waste yourself on a man you don't feel anything fond for. Your 20's are the greatest time of your life. You discover who you are, become a "real" person, have all your hare-brained adventures. Sounds like it's time to go out and do that.
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Hmmm ear. Sounds good. I think it's too late to enjoy my 20s though. I've already got a career and a husband and a home and bills and all of that. I pushed myself into life too quickly and can't find a way to sneak back out. Maybe I'll just lock myself in a room and play video games for the rest of my life.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:16:02 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
ozzy, I was 18 when we got married. Yes I know, believe me. Too young, too stupid. I do far too many things on a whim and I do regret it. Seperating probably is inevitable. I just don't want to do it without a good reason when he's been perfectly fine for a year now.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:15:28 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Berty - I've not been with a good man yet but I know they are out there. I must just have very poor luck with men.
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The only consistent feature of all your dissatisfying relationships is you. Think hard about that, and good luck.
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:15:15 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
HAHAHAHAHAHA stab him in the face area. Not the actual face.. just the area of his face. Perhaps his ear?
Long experience with cheating men has taught me that if you ever wonder if you still love him, then you don't. Leave him and get counseling for the trust issues that he's caused. Don't get into another relationship till your therapist (I suggest a woman... when you have issues with men, it makes it very difficult to open up to a male shrink) pronounces you sane. You're so young. Too young to waste yourself on a man you don't feel anything fond for. Your 20's are the greatest time of your life. You discover who you are, become a "real" person, have all your hare-brained adventures. Sounds like it's time to go out and do that.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:13:29 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by FartSmeller (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:11:46 (#)
Ranking: -1
I'm not going to flame you. I just didn't like this.
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That's fine. I just needed to vent some things and no one knows who I am here so it seemed like a decent enough place. Thanks for the lack of flaming.
Submitted by ozzy (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:13:24 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
"I moved out for a long time but being only 20 I didn't want to be divorced so quickly without at least TRYING to work things out since there seemed to be some hope of working things out. "
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Holy fuck! How old were you when you got married? Seriously, it was too young, even if it was only 6 months ago.
To me it sounds like the 2 of you seperating is inevitable. You both have so much growing up to do, and in 5 years time, you'll be a totally different person to who you are now, and look back and think "What the fuck was I thinking."
I may only some strange wack job on the net, but I speak from experience.
Hope you make the right decision, which will be the decision with your LONG TERM happiness in mind.
Submitted by FartSmeller (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:11:46 EDT (#)
Ranking: -1
I'm not going to flame you. I just didn't like this.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:11:45 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by Herpes (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:08:36 (#)
Ranking: 2
Get even with him by showing me your tits...
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I think I already have a tits post on here. From back when everyone was doing it. (everyone's probably still doing it but yeah.)
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:08:01 (#)
Ranking: 1
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I'm glad I'm wrong.
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The sad part is that I don't think you are wrong. I just argue with myself a lot so I never have a solid point of view.
Submitted by leilani (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:11:44 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Submitted by AwesomeJohnson (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:05:16 (#)
Ranking: 2
posting it on here makes it premeditated.
better off keeping your mouth shut and have it be a "crime of passion."
<law and order sound>
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hahaha
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:09:08 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
AwesomeJohnson - hmm yeah, good point. Or it could be a murder/suicide. Wouldn't that make for a lovely story?
Really though, I wouldn't kill him in the literal sense..I would just destroy him as a person as he did me. Sounds enjoyable.
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Submitted by Mike00295 (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:03:35 (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by cocaine (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:58:09 (#)
Ranking: 2
....which further supports my theory:
German's love David Hasselhoff.
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Holy shit that was funny.
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I bet David Hasselhoff is a cheating bastard too.
Submitted by Herpes (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:08:36 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Get even with him by showing me your tits...
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:08:01 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
And there are not kids involved and there never will be so it's more of a decision of if we still love eachother. He claims he still loves me and have been quite the gentlemen for the most part this year but I wonder if I still love him.
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I'm glad I'm wrong.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:06:48 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
cbear1856 - You're probably right and it will be all my fault if he hurts me again.
manicvelocity - I agree no one deserves to be treated as I have been. I'm still not sure what I want to do. 50% wants to leave and 50% wants to stay. I think I've resigned myself to sitting around and seeing what happens.
Berty - I've not been with a good man yet but I know they are out there. I must just have very poor luck with men.
I don't have confidence or strength so I suppose I'm screwed either way.
Submitted by AwesomeJohnson (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:05:16 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
posting it on here makes it premeditated.
better off keeping your mouth shut and have it be a "crime of passion."
<law and order sound>
Submitted by Mike00295 (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:03:35 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by cocaine (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:58:09 (#)
Ranking: 2
....which further supports my theory:
German's love David Hasselhoff.
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Holy shit that was funny.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:03:15 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:57:46 (#)
Ranking: 2
I know how you feel and trust me... that hate never goes away. Leave him while you still can.
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You're probably right.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:54:43 (#)
Ranking: 2
She's right you know.
A little extra bit of cruel knowledge here though:
he's going to betray you again.
Blokes like that need to seduce to validate themselves. You say sex is boring and lifeless? That's because he no longer cares about you. If he's not enjoying sex it's cause he's not going to enjoy bragging about it to himself or his mates.
You already know this though. This isn't a complicated decision unless there are kids involved.
It'd still be simple but it'd be harder emotionally speaking.
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It's not that he is not enjoying the sex. He loves it and harrasses it for me on an almost constant basis (which is very annoying). I've grown to think of sex as a chore. It's gotten so boring for me.
And there are not kids involved and there never will be so it's more of a decision of if we still love eachother. He claims he still loves me and have been quite the gentlemen for the most part this year but I wonder if I still love him.
I probably should leave before I stab him in the face area.
Submitted by cbear1856 (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:02:01 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Well written, I really got a taste of what you're feeling
Get out now, cheaters dont change...
Submitted by manicvelocity (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:01:16 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Leave him where you find him. Nobody needs to put up with that shit.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 12:00:42 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Don't write men off just 'cause of him though. There are good men out there, even strong ones who are good.
The problem is that confidence is key because people think that confidence = strength. It doesn't, confidence is just a bluff. Maybe underneath there is strength, maybe not. You don't know and confidence won't tell you one way or another. It's a cruelty of modern society that hurts men and women alike.
Submitted by cocaine (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:58:09 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
....which further supports my theory:
German's love David Hasselhoff.
Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:57:46 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I know how you feel and trust me... that hate never goes away. Leave him while you still can.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:54:43 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Pentameter (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:41:57 (#)
Ranking: 2
You know...if this bothers you so much, why don't you go to counseling or even divorce the fucking bastard?
No one says you have to stay with him. My opinion may not mean much, but I do believe that the point of life is to make yourself happy. If he is causing you this much anguish, he is certainly not worth your time.
All I'm saying is...you deserve better and you deserve to be happy.
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She's right you know.
A little extra bit of cruel knowledge here though:
he's going to betray you again.
Blokes like that need to seduce to validate themselves. You say sex is boring and lifeless? That's because he no longer cares about you. If he's not enjoying sex it's cause he's not going to enjoy bragging about it to himself or his mates.
You already know this though. This isn't a complicated decision unless there are kids involved.
It'd still be simple but it'd be harder emotionally speaking.
Submitted by leilani (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:52:55 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
he sounds like a jackass.
sometimes it's better to divorce the bastard (pentameter's words)
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:50:16 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by ozzy (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:45:23 (#)
Ranking: 1
Not horrible, but not earth shatteringly great either.
I presume this was a rant that needed to be spewed out to vent pent up anger?
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Very right, ozzy.
Submitted by Method (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:44:22 (#)
Ranking: 2
Ladies and Gentlemen, another lesbian is born from the ashes of man's "imperfections".
+2 so you don't kill me too.
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I've considered both becoming a lesbian, becoming a nun (perhaps a boxing nun?), and joining a lesbian nunnery.
Submitted by wardy (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:47:35 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Sphagnum (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:39:32 (#)
Ranking: 2
Wardy ROCKS!
Spread the word.
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:47:21 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Pentameter, We've done counseling and we've done separation. I moved out for a long time but being only 20 I didn't want to be divorced so quickly without at least TRYING to work things out since there seemed to be some hope of working things out.
The last year has been good for the most part. He's been good to me but I still have feelings of bitterness I'm not sure will ever go away. I mainly wrote this since it's approaching the one year mark that it all happened and it's been on my mind. Part of me believes that if we get past this then we will be okay.
Submitted by ozzy (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:45:23 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Not horrible, but not earth shatteringly great either.
I presume this was a rant that needed to be spewed out to vent pent up anger?
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:45:15 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I torture myself daily pushing the pain
deeper inside me
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(!)
Submitted by Method (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:44:22 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Ladies and Gentlemen, another lesbian is born from the ashes of man's "imperfections".
+2 so you don't kill me too.
Submitted by Pentameter (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:41:57 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
You know...if this bothers you so much, why don't you go to counseling or even divorce the fucking bastard?
No one says you have to stay with him. My opinion may not mean much, but I do believe that the point of life is to make yourself happy. If he is causing you this much anguish, he is certainly not worth your time.
All I'm saying is...you deserve better and you deserve to be happy.
Submitted by j0andre1 (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:37:23 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by JMG114 (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:31:47 (#)
Ranking: 0
"Hey Jared, why don't you try dating someone off of the Internet?"
"Well..."
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booya
Submitted by Holz (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:35:53 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
The information is true though the emotions are a bit exaggerated. I do have the thoughts sometimes but I'm in no plotting the death of my husband. Not yet, anyway.
Submitted by kaos-king (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:35:30 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
No Comment
Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:35:18 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I was going to -2 this, but it is redeemed by the last two lines.
I'm scared.
Submitted by ruthless (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:33:42 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I really hope this isn't true... but I have a suspicion that it is...
Submitted by Mike00295 (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:33:39 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Sounds like you have some issues here.
And the +1 isn't because I smiled, its because I fear a zero or negative rating
could send you over the edge.
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:33:16 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
What the hell?
Submitted by JMG114 (user info) at 2005-10-06 11:31:47 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
"Hey Jared, why don't you try dating someone off of the Internet?"
"Well..."