ould I Throw My Son Out Of My House? (1716 hits)
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Submitted by billrhine (View user info) at 2008-08-05 18:19:39 EDT
My son is 22. When I was his age he was two years old, the cutest little boy you ever wanted to see. All that has changed. Now he pisses me off by everything he says and everything he does.
He dropped out of school at 16, and I told him he fucked up. I said you need a college education to get by these days, and without even a high school diploma, you were dead. He just laughed and went out and passed the GED test with excellent scores. Bright kid, who now works nights at Wendy's.
I've even offered to send him to college part time, but he just blows me off. He has no clue. He gives me 100 dollars a month, which covers maybe half the food he eats. He argues with me about everything and is rude to his mother. Last week when he called her a bitch I had to step in. I said he wasn't big enough that I couldn't whip his ass, and he backed off and apologized.
There's no way he could cover rent, utilities, and food and everything else on his lousy pay, but I love him and don't want him to suffer. Yeah, I guess I'm a wuss, but this whole thing is fucking with my mental health. What the fuck do I do? Let him stay and wind up slapping the shit out of him, or throw him out and have him wind up under the bridge?
It may all be my fault, but I'm not sure what to do now.
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Submitted by hellish (user info) at 2009-02-02 00:37:05 EST (#)
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Submitted by Wildman (user info) at 2008-12-18 23:19:20 EST (#)
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Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2008-11-08 19:00:45 EST (#)
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http://www.ubersite.com/m/117293#2731194
called it immediately.
^^^^^^^^^
I called it on his 3rd review, on a Bubba (his own) post), before billrhine even posted anything
The absolute worse constructed and semi-maintained alter I've ever seen in the entire fucking history of the Intraweb.
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2008-11-08 19:00:45 EST (#)
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http://www.ubersite.com/m/117293#2731194
called it immediately.
Submitted by Phallic_Cymbals (user info) at 2008-11-08 17:22:13 EST (#)
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WELL GEE THIS IS A REALLY WELL CONCEALED ALTER BUBBA. YOUR SKILLS OF DECEPTION MAKE ME THINK YOU SHOULD BE A PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR OR A VEGAS MAGICIAN!
Submitted by Doodles (user info) at 2008-08-24 14:08:51 EDT (#)
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We think he is your alter because (like with sadie) you can't help but suck anything remotely funny out of just about anything.
Plus I find it really funny that you get all riled up over ubersite. Grow the fuck up you pissy bitch.
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2008-08-24 13:53:22 EDT (#)
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Doodles, you fucking chump. Why do you and others think this guy is my alter? There is no basis for that belief. It isn't my alter. My arithmetic skills are better than that.
Submitted by Doodles (user info) at 2008-08-24 13:28:01 EDT (#)
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I have a relative (great uncle) in his mid-sixties who swears that the moon landings in 1969 were faked. I wasn't around in 1969, so all I know is what I read in books and on the net. I think my uncle is full of shit
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From http://www.ubersite.com/m/117293
Means that you are < 39 years old.
If your son is 22 then that means you would have had him when you were <17 years old. If he was two when you were 22 that would put you at having him at 20.
20 does not equal <17.
Awful alter, here bubba.
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2008-08-10 13:27:06 EDT (#)
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Asking help from Uber gives a whole new meaning to "Village Idiot."
Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2008-08-10 11:35:08 EDT (#)
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Submitted by strwbryfanatic (user info) at 2008-08-10 09:16:32 EDT (#)
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There is a saying: "it takes a village to raise a child"...
But can you imagine if the "village" was ubersite? That kid would be so fucked up.
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It would take that child to raze a village.
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2008-08-10 11:33:57 EDT (#)
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You know you're turning your own son into half a fag here, kick his fat fucking ass out on the cold hard streets of life.
Sink or swim. Then go fuck your cat.
Submitted by strwbryfanatic (user info) at 2008-08-10 09:16:32 EDT (#)
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There is a saying: "it takes a village to raise a child"...
But can you imagine if the "village" was ubersite? That kid would be so fucked up.
Submitted by icanbecool (user info) at 2008-08-08 15:48:08 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:54:24 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Fey (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:37:30 EDT (#)
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Throwing your children out is never the answer. Try talking to him.
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The operative word here is 'children.' He may be yours, but a 22 year old is not a child unless you've allowed him to remain one by being over protective or coddling him.
I lived at home until I was in my early twenties. I was enrolled in school. My mother died, and my dad understood it was hard to leave home and was fine with me staying as long as I was studying. When I started to make slacking off in school a habit, he gave me an ultimatum: get good grades, or pay him $300 a month in rent. It was the right thing to do. A 22-year old who is in school or has life circumstances that don't allow him to make it on his own is one thing. A slacker who refuses to support himself or better his life needs a kick in the ass, and you aren't helping him by supporting him indefinitely.
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Same story, right down to the $300 bucks a month. Great minds and all that. This technique worked well for me.
Submitted by vexx (user info) at 2008-08-08 11:02:54 EDT (#)
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For once I disagree with Circe. At 22 I was a pretty big fuckup myself. Then I dropped the pot-smoking, got a haircut and learned to be fucking decent to other people. People can mature.
Submitted by Circe (user info) at 2008-08-08 10:55:35 EDT (#)
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It's too late. If he's doing this at 22, you fucked up years ago. There's no fixing him now, his character is formed.
Oops.
The best you can hope for is to get him out of the house so he can be a fuckup someplace else. Complete your failure as a parent.
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2008-08-08 00:18:57 EDT (#)
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Go on Montel.
Submitted by icarus1987 (user info) at 2008-08-07 23:57:19 EDT (#)
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I've got too many friends who were frankly coddled by their parents. Most still live at home. My advice: kick him out. It will scare him straight, and at that point he'll want to go to college. The younger you do it the better.
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2008-08-06 22:19:29 EDT (#)
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I don't understand why some whackjob on the Uberboard thinks I'm billrhine? Where do people get these ideas?
Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2008-08-06 22:10:09 EDT (#)
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throw his ass out.
my dad did it to me and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Submitted by Acarnis (user info) at 2008-08-06 16:04:42 EDT (#)
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While you shouldn't assume I'm some "Bibleist," I'll try to correct ignorance no matter who says it. I see arrogant stupidity on all sides of the political/religious dichotomy, with people making fun of things they don't understand. You can be an atheist with 100% certainty of your beliefs...but if you blurt out ignorance like mitchmaron, you're actually no better than Christians who laugh off evolution as "just a theory." Many Christians need to learn that certain scientific language doesn't mean an inconsistency; yet regretably, we see their counterpart atheists committing similar mistakes in other interpretations of language.
There are no inconsistencies. Killing is killing, true. But not all killing is murdering. The Hebrew word for killing is "harag," and this word is used for general killing. In the 6th commandment, the word used is "ratsah."
To be balanced and fair...you can argue that "ratsah" is not only murdering. That may be true, and I know it has been debated. The point is, however, that it may not be as simple as you thought it was.
Submitted by Darth_Famine (user info) at 2008-08-06 15:52:04 EDT (#)
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Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2008-08-06 15:40:58 EDT (#)
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love how the bibleists have to tie themselves in knots every time the inconsistencies are pointed out.
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Yeah, Priceless ain't it? :P
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2008-08-06 15:40:58 EDT (#)
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love how the bibleists have to tie themselves in knots every time the inconsistencies are pointed out.
Submitted by Squirrelly_Girl (user info) at 2008-08-06 15:34:23 EDT (#)
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You're asking Uber for advice?
Hehehe
Really?
Hehehe
And I thought I was naive.
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2008-08-06 15:33:01 EDT (#)
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Bullshit below. Killing is killing. Show me the Hebrew.
Submitted by Acarnis (user info) at 2008-08-06 15:17:12 EDT (#)
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Submitted by mitchmarron (user info) at 2008-08-06 09:40:17 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:01:47 EDT (#)
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Kill him for violating the 5th Commandment.
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And then someone would have to kill him for violating the 1st commandment.
And so on until everyone is dead.
The bible... obviously written by a higher being.
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Do you even know what the first commandment is? It's not "Thou shalt not kill."
(The 6th commandment is actually properly translated as "Thou shalt not murder." There can't be a chain execution, because a justified killing does not violate the commandment.)
Submitted by shadow (user info) at 2008-08-06 11:16:51 EDT (#)
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Kick him out. Let him figure it out, or fall flat on his face. My father made it very clear to me that I was completely on my own in life, and all the responsibility was mine.
AND, when I fucked up, he scooped in for a moment and saved the day. Gave me just enough of what I needed to get back on my feet, and I haven't asked him for a thing since; that was four years ago. Make sure your son knows that you're behind him, then shove him out of the nest.
It'll build character, if nothing else.
Submitted by Darth_Famine (user info) at 2008-08-06 10:21:11 EDT (#)
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Assuming he isn't mentally disabled I would say throw him out. if you don't then he will have no idea what to do once you are dead and gone. Help him out as you can, but don't let him come back until he cleans up his act.
Submitted by Cyrus (user info) at 2008-08-06 10:17:47 EDT (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:46:37 EDT (#)
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If he's 22 and still at home, you're an enabler. Give him 6 months to go to college and/or get a job and move out, or you'll move him into the YMCA.
Hey - I hear the Army's hiring. Better than minimum wage, too.
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dead on
Submitted by BobSandwich (user info) at 2008-08-06 10:03:54 EDT (#)
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Submitted by The_Drake (user info) at 2008-08-06 09:03:57 EDT (#)
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I hate ubersite.
It's your fault.
Submitted by mitchmarron (user info) at 2008-08-06 09:40:17 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:01:47 EDT (#)
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Kill him for violating the 5th Commandment.
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And then someone would have to kill him for violating the 1st commandment.
And so on until everyone is dead.
The bible... obviously written by a higher being.
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2008-08-06 09:18:01 EDT (#)
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??
Submitted by The_Drake (user info) at 2008-08-06 09:03:57 EDT (#)
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I hate ubersite.
It's your fault.
Submitted by Gay (user info) at 2008-08-06 08:31:20 EDT (#)
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Glad you brought it to the right audience.
Submitted by DeathJester (user info) at 2008-08-06 08:00:32 EDT (#)
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Tell he has 6 months to get a job which will cover his living expenses (show him the bills; all of them), and he needs to get a decent job, as 6 months down the line, his rent will pay for his key to continue unlocking the front door.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2008-08-06 06:54:24 EDT (#)
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Seriously though you should ship him off to the army. There's a war on, don't you know.
Do your part by giving a part of your family. That is Serious Patriotism.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2008-08-06 06:53:02 EDT (#)
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*reads post*
Man, it's hard work being Oathmeal's dad.
Submitted by mrwolf (user info) at 2008-08-06 06:37:59 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Doodles (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:17:38 EDT (#)
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You're still an alter, by the way.
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Thought I was going to be the first to figure that one out!
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Submitted by BranDo (user info) at 2008-08-06 06:25:21 EDT (#)
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Increase the amount of money he pays you to an acceptable level for you.
Treat him like an adult, talk with him and explain that his problem can't be yours.
Submitted by SunnyG (user info) at 2008-08-06 06:05:45 EDT (#)
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tell him to get it together (i.e. job or school) and that your house isn't a hotel.
if he doesn't comply, show him the door. It'll help him in the long run.
Submitted by czwij (user info) at 2008-08-06 05:20:31 EDT (#)
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better idea; introduce him to some of the oddballs on this site.
see son, this is what you may end up like if you don't get your shit together.
scared straight
Submitted by sexualchocolate1984 (user info) at 2008-08-06 05:01:27 EDT (#)
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I'm 23, I didn't get a degree, didn't even go to university. If he just gets a full time, daytime job, perhaps something shit, like in a factory, that will push him to get better and better jobs.
I started in a factory at 17, building seats for Land Rovers, fucking hard work, painful in fact. A couple of jobs later and a few addittions to my CV, a bit of temping and now at 23 I'm a Marketing Co-Ordinator for a publishing company, I rent a house with my mrs, looking at buying our own, and can afford to smoke pot everyday too!!! Winner.
It's a common misconception that you NEED a college eductaion to get by, you just need to make yourself a decent CV (Think you guys call it a Resume in the US) with hard work and smart job progression it's pretty easy to make it to a decent level, if he has the patience. He will need to start at the bottom, but he wants to get started soon.
You should stop letting his lazy ass work nights! What the fuck is up with that? What does he do in the day? Sleep? Faggot.
Make him get an all day job, somewhere he'll be worked hard and it will become his mission to get himself an easier job. 6am - 5pm working hard with his hands will force upon him the drive to succeed. Just so he can try to get a 9-5.
He could end up like me! Getting paid to sit on ubersite all fucking day.
Submitted by Tarka (user info) at 2008-08-06 04:32:47 EDT (#)
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I'm the 3rd of 4 children.
3 of us have good jobs and have our own places to stay.
The youngest one was bought up like the rest of us but for some unknown reason he can't seem to get anywhere. (Apparently when I say he's just lazy everyone goes into a hissy fit, so it's can't be that (fuck))
He's 23 now and still lives with my parents. He's probably not going to end up with a degree in anything and fucking smokes pot all the time.
So it's not your fault. Whoever says it's your fault that your son turned out a fuckup are the kind of people who tend to have the most to say about shit that they know the least of. You know, those ones you want to throw bricks at but law forbids you for "violating their human right to free speech".
It may sound harsh, but throw the fucker out. If he's smart, it just means he has no drive in life to get going. When he has to fend for himself he'll start realizing there's no other way around life other than working for what he wants.
He'll thank you in 10 years time. (Except if he O.D.ed or got stabbed, in which case it wouldn't matter what you did as he would've gone down the shit-road anyways).
Help him help himself.
Submitted by Fey (user info) at 2008-08-06 04:17:23 EDT (#)
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I moved out of home (I moved from NZ to Sweden) at age 16. But I've moved back once, for a year, when I had studies in the same city and saved money on living at my folks' place. I know that I can always move back to my parents place if this world, in its large uncompromising way, kicks my ass and I need a place to crash. I think you lose that sense of security if your parents kick you out.
Submitted by F.J.Bell (user info) at 2008-08-06 04:10:44 EDT (#)
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I used to be 22. I moved out of my mum's house when I was 18, went to Uni, got a degree. Now I rent a flat in a city miles away from her, and I have a job.
If you don't cut the umbilical chord he will be there til he's 32. How pissed off will THAT make you?
Submitted by Fey (user info) at 2008-08-06 03:59:23 EDT (#)
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I will always be my parents child.
There's a difference between motivating and/or pushing someone to do something that is good for them and kicking them out. I don't believe that kicking him out will help him. Sure, it may mean he learns some survival skills, but it's possible to acquire survival skills and still feel safe and loved.
Maybe look into setting up some kind of job or volonteer place or studies for him in another town, or maybe overseas, all with his consent and prior knowledge. Let travel broaden his mind, don't lose him in the process, and for fucks sake never tell him you asked us for advice.
Submitted by czwij (user info) at 2008-08-06 03:12:00 EDT (#)
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what would he like to do with his life?
i didn't know until i left north america at 24, to ride a motorcycle through europe.
i just never left, started a family, began losing said family and generally fucking things up.
now im straightening out a bit but my goal is that my kids are happy and secure at any cost.
does he have drive for something?
he's bitchy cos he doesn't know what he should do.
he needs a goal which will motivate.
what does he enjoy doing besides, drugs, video games and potentially listening to godawful rap?
Submitted by Director (user info) at 2008-08-05 23:45:03 EDT (#)
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Eat him.
Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-08-05 22:41:40 EDT (#)
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Your fault for havin' him.
Submitted by Doodles (user info) at 2008-08-05 22:19:44 EDT (#)
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Submitted by tatersninja (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:28:58 EDT (#)
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Doodles said you were.
Doodles doesn't lie.
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Tubgirl sounds semi-intelligent for once.
Submitted by billrhine (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:23:44 EDT (#)
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Says you? Who the fuck are you. God??
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HA.
I am the TOP DOG (twice removed) around these here boy. What I says goes.
Just ask that pedo shandy.
Or that faggot D_R, which I can only assume means iDeepthroat_Randommen. Or some other such nonsense.
Submitted by Amontillado (user info) at 2008-08-05 22:17:53 EDT (#)
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Sounds like someone should have taught him to be independent.
Submitted by maiorano84 (user info) at 2008-08-05 22:17:47 EDT (#)
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You came HERE to get tips on good parenting?
Have you ever heard of Growingfamily.com?
Ask them about us.
Submitted by beer-turtle (user info) at 2008-08-05 22:13:40 EDT (#)
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set a deadline
assist him with a plan.
Set him on the path.
Kick his ass out.
Submitted by billrhine (user info) at 2008-08-05 21:14:40 EDT (#)
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He's wrong this time.
Submitted by tatersninja (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:28:58 EDT (#)
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Doodles said you were.
Doodles doesn't lie.
Submitted by billrhine (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:27:51 EDT (#)
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Sorry, I am not an alter.
Submitted by tatersninja (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:25:29 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Doodles (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:17:38 EDT (#)
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You're still an alter, by the way.
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Billrhine is?
Submitted by billrhine (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:23:44 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Doodles (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:17:38 EDT (#)
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You're still an alter, by the way.
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Says you? Who the fuck are you. God??
Submitted by billrhine (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:22:28 EDT (#)
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Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:16:34 EDT (#)
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you both sound like fucking losers.
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I've made mistakes to which I admit. How old is your son?
Submitted by Doodles (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:17:38 EDT (#)
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You're still an alter, by the way.
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:16:34 EDT (#)
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you both sound like fucking losers.
Submitted by Hookhand (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:06:03 EDT (#)
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You did a shitty job of raising him and it shows. Maybe next time don't have a kid at 20.
Submitted by munkeypants (user info) at 2008-08-05 20:02:46 EDT (#)
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boot camp
Submitted by tatersninja (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:50:46 EDT (#)
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I dont' think it's JUST the school thing here guys.
Seriously, he's being an ingrate, an asshole, and not manning up and offering to at least pay for his own food (or at least show some semblance of appreciation for your help/ extended parenting.)
you could also somehow impregnate some bitch with his semen, and tell him it's his turn to do the 18 year consequence...er gift. That'll show him!
Submitted by Spam (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:49:32 EDT (#)
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What the fuck is this, Jeremy Kyle?
Submitted by Falafel (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:43:24 EDT (#)
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Submitted by IntangibleHands (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:34:17 EDT (#)
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Most people can get by without a college education as long as they can work a bit harder and aren't popping out kids. He will be fine if you just give him an ultimatum, School or leave. Don't back down from it once you do. Although forcing him to go to school will only ensure his failure.
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I going to have to agree with Hands here. I'm paying for school myself so I don't have a student loan and I'm happy my parents are willingly putting a roof over my head while I do it, so I don't end up paying off my debt until my kids go to university and I'll be too poor to help them out.
Tell him to step up or you're kicking him out on his ass. Let's see how awesome he thinks a GED is then...
Submitted by IntangibleHands (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:34:17 EDT (#)
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Most people can get by without a college education as long as they can work a bit harder and aren't popping out kids. He will be fine if you just give him an ultimatum, School or leave. Don't back down from it once you do. Although forcing him to go to school will only ensure his failure.
Submitted by Snark (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:17:00 EDT (#)
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Take 1 Part Fey and 1 Part Sacrilicous, shake well and you gots yourself a cure.
Submitted by tatersninja (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:11:44 EDT (#)
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insurance will cover til he's like 23 or something, if a full time student.
Submitted by SilentRenegade (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:08:44 EDT (#)
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that and hes legally an adult and your insurance probably wont cover him since hes not a student so you have no obligation anymore.
Submitted by SilentRenegade (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:07:39 EDT (#)
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I lived on my parents good graces for about a year after I dropped out of college... I've slept under a bridge before. I ended up joining the Army... best decision of my life... Free housing, Free Medical, Free Healthcare... hell free food! sort of.... it comes out of your paycheck but shit, I make enough to go get hammered every weekend. I say kick him out. He'll grow up real quick when he has to fight a bum for a 3 day old sandwich.
Submitted by polyamorousaj (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:07:24 EDT (#)
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Forgot to leave a comment:
Kick him out.
Just because you're doing so doesn't mean you two can't still get along at work.
Submitted by polyamorousaj (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:05:46 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by tatersninja (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:05:23 EDT (#)
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Throw his ass out.
Yeah, you clearly fucked up, but you don't have to keep doing it.
FIx it. He'll be forced to grow up or suck even more...but with someone else's money and stress.
Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:01:47 EDT (#)
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Kill him for violating the 5th Commandment.
Submitted by X54 (user info) at 2008-08-05 19:01:31 EDT (#)
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Well, duh. You're nothing but an enabler. Plus, you obviously didn't beat him enough when he was growing up. With a father like you, what chance does he have?
Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:54:24 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Fey (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:37:30 EDT (#)
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Throwing your children out is never the answer. Try talking to him.
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The operative word here is 'children.' He may be yours, but a 22 year old is not a child unless you've allowed him to remain one by being over protective or coddling him.
I lived at home until I was in my early twenties. I was enrolled in school. My mother died, and my dad understood it was hard to leave home and was fine with me staying as long as I was studying. When I started to make slacking off in school a habit, he gave me an ultimatum: get good grades, or pay him $300 a month in rent. It was the right thing to do. A 22-year old who is in school or has life circumstances that don't allow him to make it on his own is one thing. A slacker who refuses to support himself or better his life needs a kick in the ass, and you aren't helping him by supporting him indefinitely.
Submitted by orphelia (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:52:33 EDT (#)
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Oh, sorry, were you being sincere with this post?
Apologies.
Submitted by billrhine (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:47:03 EDT (#)
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Submitted by orphelia (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:43:34 EDT (#)
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It isn't real, you know?
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What isn't real?
Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:46:37 EDT (#)
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If he's 22 and still at home, you're an enabler. Give him 6 months to go to college and/or get a job and move out, or you'll move him into the YMCA.
Hey - I hear the Army's hiring. Better than minimum wage, too.
Submitted by adamleathertramp (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:46:27 EDT (#)
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If you through him out... he will invariably deal drugs. Trust me, I worked at a Wendy's in high school.
Submitted by orphelia (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:43:34 EDT (#)
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It isn't real, you know?
Submitted by tinactin (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:43:15 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Fey (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:37:30 EDT (#)
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Throwing your children out is never the answer. Try talking to him.
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Hahaha. Yeah, I'm sure he'll be a changed kid after you give him a good what for
Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:42:25 EDT (#)
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goddamnit fey, quit being the voice of reason and making me feel all bad for my snappy and hilarious answer.
*sighs*
Submitted by puggso_32 (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:40:20 EDT (#)
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"but he just blows me off. "
Lol
Submitted by Fey (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:39:33 EDT (#)
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And I don't mean telling him what to do, I mean talking, listening, hearing, discussing.
Submitted by Fey (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:37:30 EDT (#)
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Throwing your children out is never the answer. Try talking to him.
Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:36:38 EDT (#)
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choke him out, dump his naked, unconscious body in the middle of the trailer park you undoubtedly inhabit, get back to your natty lites and nascar
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:24:28 EDT (#)
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Murder-suicide sounds about right, Howie.
Submitted by DonkeyOnTheEdge (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:22:03 EDT (#)
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Post birth abortion.
Submitted by Jeanneee (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:21:20 EDT (#)
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Do the Safety Dance.
And then, yeah. Throw his gold bricking ass out on the lawn.
Submitted by billrhine (user info) at 2008-08-05 18:20:47 EDT (#)
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Fucked up the cut and paste from the start. SHit.